The Pros and Cons of a Honeymoon Registry
One of the hot topics on all wedding websites is where to register. And for us, that one was tough! John and I are not exactly spring chickens. We both own our own homes, we’ve spend considerable time and money furnishing them, and somehow our lives have come together in a comfortable, adult kind of way. We like it. We don’t need towels. We don’t even want more towels.
So when we got engaged, we were immediately drawn to the idea of a honeymoon registry. A honeymoon registry is a place where, just like a traditional registry, guests can buy you a gift– only instead of towels, you receive a portion of your honeymoon (a night in your hotel, a portion of your airfare, or an activity for two)! For two people who don’t need anything, we were pretty thrilled with the idea! So we set up our registry at www.honeyfund.com, which was one of the only websites we found that did not charge a “commission” on our gifts. The website is user friendly, and allows you to customize your requests to your honeymoon. And if you upgrade for about $20, you get a space that is ad-free!
Since setting up our registry, I’ve heard a few comments from people saying they feel honeymoon registries are “in poor taste” or that “people should pay for their own honeymoons.” I was totally taken aback by these comments though. Of course we can pay for our own honeymoon. We would never have booked it otherwise. Yikes!
Frankly, neither of us really cares if people buy us anything. It will be wonderful enough to have family and friends around us to celebrate our special day with us. But alas, registries are one of those “things people expect.” So to satisfy any concerned citizens, we also set up a registry at Bed, Bath & Beyond. And, happily, there are no towels on it! Rather, we registered for a nice set of sheets, some kitchen gadgets and appliances we’ve managed not yet to acquire, and shamwow (holds twelve times its weight in water, or so I hear)! If people want to buy us gifts off either registry, we’ll be honored and thrilled. And if not, we’ll still be honored and thrilled that they came to the wedding. Hopefully now the distasteful comments will come to an end!
Has anyone else heard negative feedback on their registry ideas?
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Some of my mom's friends & our older relatives were irritated that we refused to register – but we were in the same boat… sort of. No house quite yet, but enough STUFF to fill one, crammed into our tiny one-bedroom apartment & storage unit.
The thought of people giving us STUFF made me want to barf. We were going to register for the weddingmoon, but decided it was lame since it was our ACTUAL wedding after all. If we had done a traditional wedding & honeymoon, we probably would have done that.
I actually wish we could/would have set up a registry for our new house (which we were planning on buying that subsequent Spring, and did), like, "Give the gift of PAINT for our new bedroom!" or "Give the gift of WINDOW TREATMENTS for our dining room" or "Give the gift of WEED & SEED for our new lawn" – but have it all go into a lump account like the honeymoon registry. Buying our new home is what we ended up using all of our generous gifts of kiz-ash for anyways, but it would have made it more… fun? Concrete? Something. Someone should create a registry like THAT!
In retrospect, I think you are a SMART GIRL for registering for your honeymoon. I think you should tell anyone who thinks it's tasteless to register your honeymoon that it's 2009 and you have been living in sin long enough not to need any of the tchotchkes people usually give newly weds. You started your lives together and nestled into your nest long before your wedding day (and you should be ashamed, you harlot!).
I also think you're a SMART GIRL for registering at BB&B… cuz trust me… if you hadn't, people would have gotten you some jacked up shit. Trust me. I may regift…
No – I take that back – you're getting a towel. Just one. Hand size.
I would love to register fora honeymoon. Perfection!